The Art of Giving & Receiving
Yes, there is an art to giving and receiving.
It's more than just physical gifts—it's a form of energy. We all give and receive subconsciously every day—whether we realize it or not! We give and receive subconsciously through breathing. We must exhale to inhale, and inhale to exhale. We sleep and we wake. We talk and we listen. It's about exchanging energy—which takes form in many different ways.
Consciously taking hold of that energy however, takes practice. It is an art form of sorts, because it requires a conscious understanding of where we exist within the spectrum of those energies throughout the different parts of our lives. Giving and receiving is a part of every day life. When we practice it consciously (and understand how it works energetically), we are able to live more deeply and improve how we exchange energy with others.
It's as Simple as Yin and Yang
Giving and receiving is better understood as Yin (female—receptive) and Yang (male—expressive) energy. According to the Encyclopedia Britannica, Yin-Yang philosophy is as follows:
Yin is a symbol of earth, femaleness, darkness, passivity, and absorption. It is present in even numbers, in valleys and streams, and is represented by the tiger, the color orange, and a broken line. Yang is conceived of as heaven, maleness, light, activity, and penetration. It is present in odd numbers, in mountains, and is represented by the dragon, the color azure, and an unbroken line. The two are both said to proceed from the Great Ultimate (taiji), their interplay on one another (as one increases the other decreases) being a description of the actual process of the universe and all that is in it. In harmony, the two are depicted as the light and dark halves of a circle.
There is both Yin and Yang energy in everything that exists. We all contain both Yin and Yang elements within us mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. No on is 100% "masculine" or "feminine". The better we understand these energies, the better we can be at putting balance in our lives and becoming more harmonious.
Examples of Yin and Yang in our Lives
We have all experienced Yin and Yang energies in different ways in our lives. Yin and Yang elements exist even in our bodies! When you're shy or introvert, you're mentally in a Yin state. When you're expressing yourself, you're in a Yang state. The left side of our bodies is the receiving side—the Yin side—and the right side is the giving side—the Yang side (part of the reason we shake and eat with our right hands!). When you inhale, you are receiving (Yin) and when you exhale, you are giving (Yang). These two sides can't exist without each other, just as we can't live without both inhaling and exhaling. That's why it's important to keep both elements in our lives balanced.
Why it's Important
Like I said previously, it's about balance. When we are imbalanced or feel stuck in our lives, we are often times missing Yin or Yang elements to our energies.
Imbalances often manifest as feelings of stagnation or lack of flow. Imbalances can manifest in your love life, friendships, finances, health, and life path.
The reason we become stuck sometimes is the same reason we cannot exponentially exhale or inhale. Life has a rhythm, so we must let go in order to receive, and receive in order to give. So if you're having trouble moving forward in a part of your life, such as making friends, increasing your finances, going through a transition or anything else—ask yourself this question: What do I need to release?
98% of the Time Just Let Go
Around 98% of the time it's just about letting go. With most of my clients who feel "stuck" it's almost always about letting go of something. On the rare occasion, it's about being humble enough to receive help, but again, that's rarely the case. Often times I have a client who is trying to move forward in some way, but they aren't making progress (or finding it difficult to do so). This is because they have elements of their lives that need to be released and cannot be carried with them into their next chapter—these elements in their lives no longer serves their highest good. The things that need releasing can take the form of old friends you've grown apart from, a bad relationship, too much stuff you don't need and even negative elements of your personality that you need to release.
I personally had a lesson or two to learn when it comes to balance the Yin and Yang energies in my own life and business. For some time, I had this increasing feeling of restriction in the energies surrounding my business. I felt limited, and I knew something was out of balance—I just wasn't quite sure what.
Slowly, it dawned on me (and Spirit of course gave me some clear signs). It was my prices. My prices were too low, and the restriction was a result of my growth as a psychic, ironically. Initially, the prices I had set were fine when I started out. But I had grown as a psychic since then and they no longer reflected the quality of my readings.
In turn, the readings I gave began to feel restricted. The best way I can describe it is like being a deep sea free diver. I knew I could dive deeper into the reading, but something took the air out of my lungs before I could reach that energetic destination with my clients.
After much contemplation, I not only increased my prices, but stopped doing readings at psychic fairs altogether. I knew I needed to not only be willing to receive more compensation for my readings, but also be willing to give quality readings (readings that weren't just 20 minutes long). Once I took the brave step of increasing my prices, it felt like a weight had lifted. The readings I gave afterwards were even better in quality, and now I am able to help my clients on an even deeper level than before.
Another instance involves our move to Atlanta. Often times in a large move that involves big life changes, like moving from one state to another, we experience a lot of sacrifices in the process. I not only had an experience that helped reshape my identity right before the move, but my husband and I had to sell and throw away a lot of our stuff (we were downsizing).
Many transitions require a form of sacrifice, or letting go, so we can fully receive. After all, how can we take a present if our hands are full?
How to Better Give & Receive
Like I said in the beginning, the art of giving and receiving is about learning where your life is out of balance, and being willing to let go or ask for help in order to re-establish that balance.
If You're Needing to Receive Something...
Let go, simply put.
If you want to receive, you need to let go of something. If it's an emotional thing you need help with, release your worries to God and put your faith in Him. This means letting go again every time you think about it. Make it a habit to put your faith in Him and surrender. Make it a habit to release. This isn't as easy as it sounds, because it requires persistence—and faith. You'll be surprised at how much that indraws positivity in your life.
If it's physical (money, health, job, etc...) let go of physical things. Donate to an ethical charitable organization. When is the last time you've donated old clothes you haven't used in years? What about children's toys from years ago? Does your house need cleaning? Have a yard sale—or donate unused things to Goodwill. All of these actions create a vacuum—a space that allows you to indraw the energy you're looking for.
Other things to consider releasing are friends that no longer serve your highest good. There are countless times I have done readings for clients with abundance hanging over their heads, but the Universe restricts that because they have friends in their lives that are parasites. God/The Universe/Spirit has a tendency to refrain from giving abundance to people with energy vampires, because the abundance is a divine blessing—and not meant for people who would warp or taint it.
So if you're looking to move your life to the next level, inflect. What people do you need to release from your life? Who do you need to set better boundaries with? Limit phone calls and spending time with people who drain you. You have the right to be picky.
If You're Needing to be Better at Giving...
Humble yourself and receive.
I see empaths and moms especially can have a hard time with this. They're so used to giving, and then when they're drained they get frustrated, depressed, anxious and upset with themselves and others because they ran out of gas. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Take a salt bath, or a walk in nature. Ground yourself. Take a nap. Do something for yourself. If someone offers to help you, take them up on it. It's a sign from the Universe that it's time to receive.
This is especially true for empaths—the gentle warriors. They need to stay recharged and fill their own cup if they wish to truly help the world.
Learn to balance how you give and receive—your Yin and Yang. Paying attention to how you are addressing these energies in your life will allow you to live more deeply, and have a balance on all levels. Understanding these energies takes time, but practice and patience will allow you to move freely between the Yin and Yang in your life—just like breathing.