Finding Inner Peace
"Sure!" You might say. "Inner peace is easy—if you've got a margarita in hand while lying on the beach in Key West!"
I would imagine that would feel quite peaceful—but that's not what we're talking about today. Inner peace is something that sticks with you longer than a nice moment on the beach. It stays with you when you're stuck in rush hour traffic, or when your co-worker tries to get on your nerves. Inner peace is a state of being.
"Inner peace"—I think that's what everyone is searching for, in the end— myself included. We're all looking for it, in different things. We look for inner peace through things such as resolve, or through a peace of mind. Some may even think that inner peace may be found through money, or love. But everyone is looking for their own form of inner peace—through one catalyst or another.
It took me a while to realize this, but that's the conclusion I've come to after doing a number of readings. We all want peace. We all want resolve. We all know happiness comes with having peace.
So what is it? Why is it so hard to get? Is it really more than the simple sayings of wise sages of old? Yes and no. It's simple, and it's not. There are multiple facets to finding inner peace, all of which rely on changing how we think about things.
It's about letting go
That is perhaps the first (and most challenging) lesson to finding inner peace. We have to let go of control. Ideally, we let go of our control and expectations of everything in our lives. But if you're like myself and find that in fact, you're not a zen master, letting go of everything may prove to be quite an interesting challenge. So, letting go of control of specific things bugging you in your life is a good place to start. Start small first, then work yourself up to the bigger things. Finding true inner peace takes practice.
Letting go requires continually letting go. It's not just a "one-and-done" thing. Do you think of what's bugging you only once? No. Then why would letting go of what's bugging you happen only once? It's a process—because finding peace requires changing your thinking habits. Every time you find yourself thinking about what you've chosen to let go, let go of it again in your head. Pray about it. Ask for God to help you release it. Surrender. Again and again. Letting go requires being committed to letting it go and releasing any thoughts and emotions about it to God every time it comes up. This requires patience (with both God and yourself) and prayer.
Having faith helps with surrendering. A lot. This is because inner peace and faith go hand-in-hand. You're not just letting go of your problems—you're surrendering them to God. You're entrusting God with your problems, and your faith in Him is what helps you find the peace in knowing the problem will be resolved. When I've had to let go of things, I visualize myself releasing my issue to God, and watching Him take it from me. I have faith in Him and know He wants me to have inner peace, and will only deliver the solution at the highest vibrational frequency if I continually let go.
When you start thinking about the issues you've chosen to give to Him, and you begin to focus on it and let it bug you again, you're essentially letting your ego yank the problem back. When you find yourself focusing on the issue again, it's important to first recognize you're doing this (a mental self-check, if you will) and then release it again to Him. You'll find it gets easier and easier each time you do this.
Keep the Faith and the Trust
This is the last bit of the trifecta. We need to trust in God and know that He will provide for us in the best way possible. Trust is understanding that God has only your best interests in mind. Faith is believing in Him and knowing that He will provide. Faith and trust go hand-in-hand. Having both is the secret to being able to completely let go of our issues and find inner peace.
This also includes having faith in divine timing. God is never late in delivering what you need. He is never early. He is always on time. Repeat after me: "He is always on time!"
Being in the present is another important part of finding inner peace. It's also the key element to successful meditation. Continually being present combats the egoic thoughts that would tempt you into the mental spiral of taking your issues back after surrendering them. Focusing on the moment—just being and just breathing—combats the ego. The ego is your worst enemy when it comes to finding inner peace. This is because our egos like to control and worry and question everything. Egoic energy is low-vibrating. It's quick to get into, and a challenge to rise above. Your ego will want you to overthink the things you've given to God, so when you find yourself worrying about something you're trying to surrender, know that you don't have to know everything that is going on regarding the problem. That is just your ego trying to take back control.
So, when you find your ego pulling at your mind, or find yourself worrying about an issue you're trying to surrender...
Just stop, and breathe.